a reprimand is only a grouch
in disguise; however, remember that those whose lives you have touched
and those whom have touched yours are a part of you, even if the encounters
were less than what one would have wished. It's the content of the encounter
that is more important than its immediate form.
Did you, or
can you gain anything from it, is the question that should be asked. And,
are your actions worthy of eliciting
praise from others? Are you a comfort to others, a help to them? When you
leave them, do you think they appreciated your little
visit? Are you one of the reasons others believe love
exists in the world? Do you add to high
standards, or are you an ethical-vacillator?
Do others have low or high expectations of you? Do you let others down
or lift them up? How?
first sign of suicide is withdrawal;
withdrawal from involvement with others; even withdrawal from what the
self once was – the person becomes 'strange', different sort of, different
in a retrogressive way and
enters a new world of the mind's own making.
a smile can be such sadness -Proverbs
The real gentleman or lady is one who is courteous and
without trying to sell you something!
A gentle person
is not occupied with the self.
Consideration is the mark of a gentleman,
but there are hundreds of ways not to be!
Each time you
gain an advantage at another's expense, you ensure your own future loss.
things may appear not as they seem, they should be left unseen.
It's important to be doing things
with others -1John 1:7; 2Corinthians
8:4; Acts 2:42. Do things people
like. Avoid doing what they don't like. As
much as possible try to live peaceably.
with others is part of life and provides opportunity to learn to get along
considering how different we all are.
with others can be trying at times. But,
those who are of angry nature -Proverbs
22:24,25 "Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious
man thou shalt not go, Lest thou learn his ways and get a snare to thy
Relationships are important.
A study done between two towns close together, both eating much the same
food and seeing the same doctors; one town, Roseto, Pennsylvania; the other,
Roseto had a much lower incidence
of heart disease according to Dr. Jeffrey Milliken, Chief of Cardiothoracic
Surgery at HCI. The difference was that Roseto was a tight knit Italian
immigrant community with strong family and community relationships. The
spiritual heart does affect the physical heart. Having loving relationships
are most important. You know the old saying: Whatever's eating you mentally,
will soon eat you physically!
give you favor in another's eyes.
If He isn't, then there is something there for you to learn to improve,
and that always involves the art of love. We all
are here to learn from being around all kinds of people, from difficult
to docile. Learn what?
Without the right character you may
be inept in handling the
power you will have as a resurrected being, a member of the God
family. The main thing that's going to get you an either 30,
60 or 100 fold reward has to do with what you do here with what you
know to do, and in this, He is purging you to bring forth even more fruit
".....every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth.(original
that it may bring forth more fruit." Ephesians
2:10 "For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good
works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.".That's
why life here isn't easy.(for
any of us), but possible. We all strongly seek comfort
and security, not realizing that HE
is our comfort; that HE
is our security.
is a key to maintaining a loving relationship: Jacob.(Abraham's
grandson by Isaac).had a very
trying life. He was hated by his brother,
Esau -Genesis 27:41.
Jacob's mother, Rebekah.(husband,
Isaac), spurred him to leave home for his safety -Genesis
Jacob was a very loving man. He cared.(prayer
first and also conversation
are parts of a relationship).for
his brother and wanted to share the wealth he had accumulated since leaving
home, so he sent word to his brother Esau -Genesis
story of what happened to Jacob between leaving home and before sending
for Esau is here.
The messengers Jacob sent returned
to him and told him his brother was coming with four hundred men. All the
thoughts about the hate Esau had for Jacob must have been ringing through
Jacob's mind again -Genesis 32:6-8.
Jacob was very concerned, remembering how he had to leave home for fear
of his life -Genesis 32:9,11. He
even had a present arranged for his brother Esau when he was to come -verse
13. Jacob was anxious to show his kindness and love that he had for
Esau and just wanted his brother Esau to love
of the wrong done to him.
So the time comes when Esau meets
Jacob:-Jacob in humility and some fear, no
doubt, bows to the ground when he sees Esau -Genesis
33:1-3. But Esau was different now -Genesis
the type of person to go to great lengths to ensure a harmonious relationship
and had great respect even for this brother of his -Genesis
33:8. Jacob was very generous -Genesis
33:11. Jacob was a true gentleman.
A gentleman test!
Esau had become somewhat like
Jacob during the interim -Genesis
And the key to it all: Look
beyond the physical person: Look deeply: Jacob had looked beyond what his
brother had caused, what with him having to leave home and all the hate
Esau had for him AND SAW ONLY GOD IN HIM -verse
Try to see the value in others that
God sees; that each person is valuable enough
for God to have come here in the flesh to die for, in order to enable them
to aspire toward a wonderful future.
With this attitude you won't exclude yourself from regular
This long standing attitude of love
and concern for Esau was obviously blessed by God as Esau had changed from
hate to love for Jacob. God
can cause hearts to change.....continues