R e l a t i o n s h i p s ,  P a g e  8
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Relationships With Others
Sometimes a reprimand is only a grouch in disguise; however, remember that those whose lives you have touched and those whom have touched yours are a part of you, even if the encounters were less than what one would have wished. It's the content of the encounter that is more important than its immediate form.
    Did you, or can you gain anything from it, is the question that should be asked. And, are your actions worthy of eliciting praise from others? Are you a comfort to others, a help to them? When you leave them, do you think they appreciated your little visit? Are  you one of the reasons others believe love exists in the world? Do you add to high standards, or are you an ethical-vacillator? Do others have low or high expectations of you? Do you let others down or lift them up? How?

A first sign of suicide is withdrawal; withdrawal from involvement with others; even withdrawal from what the self once was – the person becomes 'strange', different sort of, different in a retrogressive way and enters a new world of the mind's own making.
    Even behind a smile can be such sadness -Proverbs 14:13.

The real gentleman or lady is one who is courteous and affable without trying to sell you something! 
    A gentle person is not occupied with the self.
    Consideration is the mark of a gentleman, but there are hundreds of ways not to be! 
    Each time you gain an advantage at another's expense, you ensure your own future loss.
    Because some things may appear not as they seem, they should be left unseen.

It's important to be doing things with others -1John 1:7; 2Corinthians 8:4; Acts 2:42. Do things people like. Avoid doing what they don't like. As much as possible try to live peaceably.
    Doing things with others is part of life and provides opportunity to learn to get along considering how different we all are.
    Relations with others can be trying at times. But, avoid those who are of angry nature -Proverbs 22:24,25 "Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go, Lest thou learn his ways and get a snare to thy soul."
    Relationships are important. A study done between two towns close together, both eating much the same food and seeing the same doctors; one town, Roseto, Pennsylvania; the other, Bangor: 
    Roseto had a much lower incidence of heart disease according to Dr. Jeffrey Milliken, Chief of Cardiothoracic Surgery at HCI. The difference was that Roseto was a tight knit Italian immigrant community with strong family and community relationships. The spiritual heart does affect the physical heart. Having loving relationships are most important. You know the old saying: Whatever's eating you mentally, will soon eat you physically! 
    God can give you favor in another's eyes. If He isn't, then there is something there for you to learn to improve, and that always involves the art of love. We all are here to learn from being around all kinds of people, from difficult to docile. Learn what? 
    Without the right character you may be inept in handling the power you will have as a resurrected being, a member of the God family. The main thing that's going to get you an either 30, 60 or 100 fold reward has to do with what you do here with what you know to do, and in this, He is purging you to bring forth even more fruit -John 15:2 ".....every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth.(original is 'cleanse').it, that it may bring forth more fruit." Ephesians 2:10 "For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.".That's why life here isn't easy.(for any of us), but possible. We all strongly seek comfort and security, not realizing that HE is our comfort; that HE is our security.
    There is a key to maintaining a loving relationship: Jacob.(Abraham's grandson by Isaac).had a very trying life. He was hated by his brother, Esau -Genesis 27:41
    Jacob's mother, Rebekah.(husband, Isaac), spurred him to leave home for his safety -Genesis 27:42-45.
    Jacob was a very loving man. He cared.(prayer first and also conversation are parts of a relationship).for his brother and wanted to share the wealth he had accumulated since leaving home, so he sent word to his brother Esau -Genesis 32:3-5. The-very-interesting story of what happened to Jacob between leaving home and before sending for Esau is here
    The messengers Jacob sent returned to him and told him his brother was coming with four hundred men. All the thoughts about the hate Esau had for Jacob must have been ringing through Jacob's mind again -Genesis 32:6-8. Jacob was very concerned, remembering how he had to leave home for fear of his life -Genesis 32:9,11. He even had a present arranged for his brother Esau when he was to come -verse 13. Jacob was anxious to show his kindness and love that he had for Esau and just wanted his brother Esau to love him.(verses 14-20).being totally-forgiving of the wrong done to him. 
    So the time comes when Esau meets Jacob:-Jacob in humility and some fear, no doubt, bows to the ground when he sees Esau -Genesis 33:1-3. But Esau was different now -Genesis 33:4-7
    Jacob was the type of person to go to great lengths to ensure a harmonious relationship and had great respect even for this brother of his -Genesis 33:8. Jacob was very generous -Genesis 33:11. Jacob was a true gentleman. A gentleman test
     Esau had become somewhat like Jacob during the interim -Genesis 33:9
     And the key to it all: Look beyond the physical person: Look deeply: Jacob had looked beyond what his brother had caused, what with him having to leave home and all the hate Esau had for him AND SAW ONLY GOD IN HIM -verse 10
    Try to see the value in others that God sees; that each person is valuable enough for God to have come here in the flesh to die for, in order to enable them to aspire toward a wonderful future. With this attitude you won't exclude yourself from regular fellowship.
    This long standing attitude of love and concern for Esau was obviously blessed by God as Esau had changed from hate to love for Jacob. God can cause hearts to change.....continues


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