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Sex Before Marriage?
    For years I heard that fornication meant sex before marriage, until I studied it out for myself. In the original Hebrew (Old Testament) and the original Greek (New Testament) the word used means 'lewdness', an example of, was sexual intercourse between a married man and an unmarried woman -1Corinthians 6:16,18,20.
    In the Old Testament, this was adultery. Other examples: Leviticus 21:9-(word here, 'whore', is the same original used here in Ezekiel 16:26 and translated 'fornication'); Ephesians 5:5
    In the New Testament the word fornication is used broadly to mean much the same--'lewdness'. In modern religious usage, the word has acquired a meaning more limited than its signification in the scriptures, mostly today meaning a prostitute.
    Some have thought that the Kingdom Of God is a sexless realm. 

Now, since God looks on the heart (1Samuel 16:7; Luke 16:15), whatever in your relationship with God that you contemplate that would be lewdness, you should not do -Romans 14:23.
    If lewdness to you is superficial relationships and having sex with a different partner as often you can, then you shouldn't.
    If oral sex, etc. is lewdness to you (but know this:-the bed is undefiled -Hebrews 13:4), then don't.
    But do grow in grace and knowledge, knowledge that you can have confidence is correct. Come to see things from God's perspective -2Peter 3:18.
    If having a marriage certificate by the state is what makes you feel comfortable before sex, then get one! If you wish to live common law or in some other arrangement, know that in all things you should live from the highest and sincerest intentions from your heart. Some write up an agreement and commit to it. Others require no such agreement. Have vision and govern your life with wisdom. Be sure the one you want to be committed to is the right one for you. Consider where you are going in life overall and just why you want a partner. 
    Marriage is the only lottery licensed by the state and supported by the clergy! 
    Many today don't want a committed relationship. They just want to play with one another and then another. 
    Weddings are a good custom. If it's of the true feelings of the heart and not a fraud, then it is expressing publicly the sincerest heartfelt commitment by both parties.
    Weddings are a very positive and hopeful celebration of continued happiness together. Wedding rings are a courteous expression of this hope and commitment. 
    A definition of insanity is:-Doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result. 
    One should know another well, before committing to whatever type of outward appearance a relationship may take (see 'Mating'), whether it begins in a little private ceremony, a large wedding ceremony, or just a sincere prayer for each other after you've decided to live together with perhaps an agreement (example). It matters to God that you be happy. He is most concerned with your spirit -Hebrews 12:9. The flesh will one day be gone -Mark 12:25
    BUT, one should live using wisdom (Ecclesiastes 7:2) considering effects of all decisions. I mean venereal disease and aids are scourges of the day aren't they? 
    Living carelessly is living dangerously. Living freely in Christ throws the responsibility upon us to govern ourselves for our and for others' good to the best of our knowledge, ability and with the various levels of control and/or lack of control we all individually decide to exercise over our lives. 
    Some decisions can obligate one to severely pay; be it divorce for whatever causes it (perhaps lack of knowledge on what to look for in another, how to treat each other, etc.), be it disease, be it incontinence, be it careless driving and so on. 
    Some decisions just may not give a second chance at life or, greatly reduce one's ability to express in the same way again (disabilities, etc.). 
    Because it is the age of grace doesn't mean, that for you, it has to be the time of abusive and/or dangerous decisions regarding one's actions. It's the age of God's grace, not the age of careless attitudes.
    Some, with vision can be patient in waiting for what they want, such as 'the right one', as they are able to keep busy focused upon the main reason that they have been called to God in this time -Philippians 1:27. Others must 'jump in', like--'right now' -1Corinthians 7:6-9. They need to take time to think about what they know and about what they continue to learn regarding God in order to become steadfast and stable -Colossians 2:5.
    In all things concerning yourself and others, plan to live peaceably -Romans 14:18.

Questions

-Hebrews 13:4 says God will judge whoremongers. I checked and in the original the word's root is the same as for fornication and means lewdness. 
Paul is saying that the way of God is not one of lewdness and adultery, both selfish things (verse 5).
    Realize instead that one can be content in Christ as all things good for us are in Him, and because He is in us one can be content that all things will continue unfolding in his experience. 
    And how will God judge them? 

-What does "as is fit in the Lord" mean -Colossians 3:18
As would be fitting or proper for a Christian to adopt as behavior.
    Once one is 'saved', he is as good as being in the physical Kingdom of God, now being in the spiritual one (the family of God).
    The job for a Christian now is to become as effective as he or she can in it.
    In this particular verse's context, it's talking of male/female intimate relationships.


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