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7- Cares for you?-(considerate,
respects, adds to the relationship, open to intimacy,
or an oppressive,
type (how to spot them);
or an egomaniac into debt and
personality presentations for the sake of an impressive lifestyle,
a perfect example of 'loving
the world')? Tries to give you a perfect happy day or negotiates the
day from a selfish point of view?
the person who is a potential for a mate understand the difference between
needs and wants? Does he or she understand God's
part in all this?
is dichotomization. The ability
to separate what's needed from what one may desire, can help contribute
towards a stable lifestyle. To adhere
to such values requires self control.
understood the difference. Does your potential mate?
seek for a man like Eady had.
open, honest and dependable
and well liked by others? Has integrity-(or
a worthless person – see under #15); stands the test (approved by) of others
who you know love you, like mom and dad)? Is a polite
person? Known him or her long enough? How long is that? Do you know them
well enough to be sure they'll be consistent in the positive qualities
you now know them for?
9- Appreciative and happy-(thankful,
happy with you and his/herself; willing to give all to do whatever it may
take to make the relationship continually special; also, if you don't feel
this way toward the other, don't proceed)?
10- Voice and speech-(pleasant
and warm, upbeat yet controlled, or 'draggy', incoherent;
speaks of the good in others or gossips;
would rather say something lighthearted or nasty)?
seeker, anxious to learn that which will improve things)? What does he
or she want? If a family is important to you, is it also to him or her?
Wants you for a sex partner and yet wants to continue to live his or her
own life as he or she sees fit? Wants to 'settle down' or play his or her
life away for a while?
12- Cleanliness of person/living
parents, to each other and him/her, present state of parents; still
happily together)? This is a one of the more important considerations,
perhaps the most important consideration? And what's the family like? And
does he or she have positive feelings about both the good and bad circumstances
of his past. Is he or she capable of deep feelings or happy mostly by satisfying
superficial and temporary present interests.
If he or she
came from good parents, they too will make a good parent.
14- Common interests
(what brings you together; able to communicate)?
15- Is he or she Christian? Hot,
lukewarm or pseudo?-2Corinthians
6:14,15 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what
fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion
hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial-(or,
those which can be influenced by the
dark side)? Or what part
hath he that believeth with an infidel (an
unbeliever; one not called by God
1:13 "Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness and hath translated
us into the kingdom of his dear Son." Ephesians
5:11 "And have no fellowship with the unfruitful
works of darkness, but rather reprove them.",
or, more accurately: 'Avoid the dark side; the side that is unprofitable
spiritually, and be convicted of those works; that is, see the results
previous verse in this chapter advises) not to be a part of those works.'
Holy Spirit working on one's heart that reproves or convicts the conscience
to seek answers that can only be found in God.
the baseball rule – three strikes
and you're out! Because a relationship should grow, and because you don't
want to end up in an 'empty box',
use the baseball rule when getting to know someone and interested
enough to rate them.
If they do what you consider to be a major negative regarding the
relationship, that's strike one. Strike two? Time to do some very serious
thinking. If strike three occurs – well, are you going to hang in
for 'strike four'? If you do, expect strike five, six, and so on, till
you've wasted time and perhaps missed meeting someone else more suitable
3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" What's
his or her attitude toward good things and noble principles? Or is he or
she one who violates their own sense of right and wrong to gain selfish
advantage (like – "how can I
use what he/she likes to get what I want"), one who manipulates and lies
to deceive. If he or she highly regards good, he or she will highly regard
good in you -Matthew 12:35.
One who doesn't
regard good enough to put some in him or herself and try
to convey it to others, is virtually
worthless, consumed by selfishness
and of no real value. Such are
they who fail to realize their
importance to God. One seeking the approbation
of men isn't a believer -John 5:44.
to see if another has faith. One can
tell if a Christian really believes in a
life beyond by how they live today. More
on unequally yoked.
he or she talked to God about his/her death? Makes for an interesting more
serious conversation topic, especially if something has welled up in the
mind from God as an answer if one or both of you had done this.-...continue
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