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7- Cares for you?-(considerate, prompt, respects, adds to the relationship, open to intimacy, or an oppressive, dominating type (how to spot them); or an egomaniac into debt and phony personality presentations for the sake of an impressive lifestyle, a perfect example of 'loving the world')? Tries to give you a perfect happy day or negotiates the day from a selfish point of view?
    Does the person who is a potential for a mate understand the difference between needs and wants? Does he or she understand God's part in all this?
    That difference is dichotomization. The ability to separate what's needed from what one may desire, can help contribute towards a stable lifestyle. To adhere to such values requires self control. Einstein understood the difference. Does your potential mate?
    Ladies, seek for a man like Eady had

8- Trustworthy, open, honest and dependable and well liked by others? Has integrity-(or a worthless person – see under #15); stands the test (approved by) of others who you know love you, like mom and dad)? Is a polite person? Known him or her long enough? How long is that? Do you know them well enough to be sure they'll be consistent in the positive qualities you now know them for?

9- Appreciative and happy-(thankful, happy with you and his/herself; willing to give all to do whatever it may take to make the relationship continually special; also, if you don't feel this way toward the other, don't proceed)?

10- Voice and speech-(pleasant and warm, upbeat yet controlled, or 'draggy', incoherent; speaks of the good in others or gossips; would rather say something lighthearted or nasty)? 

11--Open minded-(a seeker, anxious to learn that which will improve things)? What does he or she want? If a family is important to you, is it also to him or her? Wants you for a sex partner and yet wants to continue to live his or her own life as he or she sees fit? Wants to 'settle down' or play his or her life away for a while?

12- Cleanliness of person/living environment-(neat, classy, disheveled, crummy)?

13- Background-(upbringing: loving parents, to each other and him/her, present state of parents; still happily together)? This is a one of the more important considerations, perhaps the most important consideration? And what's the family like? And does he or she have positive feelings about both the good and bad circumstances of his past. Is he or she capable of deep feelings or happy mostly by satisfying superficial and temporary present interests.
    If he or she came from good parents, they too will make a good parent.

14- Common interests (what brings you together; able to communicate)?

15- Is he or she Christian? Hot, lukewarm or pseudo?-2Corinthians 6:14,15 "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial-(or, those which can be influenced by the dark side)? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel (an unbeliever; one not called by God yet)?" Colossians 1:13 "Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness and hath translated us into the kingdom of his dear Son." Ephesians 5:11 "And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.", or, more accurately: 'Avoid the dark side; the side that is unprofitable spiritually, and be convicted of those works; that is, see the results and decide-(as the previous verse in this chapter advises) not to be a part of those works.'
    It's the Holy Spirit working on one's heart that reproves or convicts the conscience to seek answers that can only be found in God.
    Use the baseball rule three strikes and you're out! Because a relationship should grow, and because you don't want to end up in an 'empty box', use the baseball rule when getting to know someone and interested enough to rate them. 
    If they do what you consider to be a major negative regarding the relationship, that's strike one. Strike two? Time to do some very serious thinking. If strike three occurs – well, are you going to hang in for 'strike four'? If you do, expect strike five, six, and so on, till you've wasted time and perhaps missed meeting someone else more suitable for you.
    Amos 3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" What's his or her attitude toward good things and noble principles? Or is he or she one who violates their own sense of right and wrong to gain selfish advantage (like – "how can I use what he/she likes to get what I want"), one who manipulates and lies to deceive. If he or she highly regards good, he or she will highly regard good in you -Matthew 12:35.
    One who doesn't regard good enough to put some in him or herself and try to convey it to others, is virtually worthless, consumed by selfishness and of no real value. Such are they who fail to realize their importance to God. One seeking the approbation of men isn't a believer -John 5:44. Look to see if another has faith. One can tell if a Christian really believes in a life beyond by how they live today. More on unequally yoked.
   Has he or she talked to God about his/her death? Makes for an interesting more serious conversation topic, especially if something has welled up in the mind from God as an answer if one or both of you had done this.-...continue to number 16


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Woman divorce for health reasons – their sick of him
Men divorce for health reasons too – financial health
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