key to loyalty and the key to deepening love.
Want your mate
to be loyal to you? Have fun with him or her! We are most loyal to and
prefer to be around those with whom we have fun, fun, fun! There is a difference
between trying to please another (work) and wanting to (fun) provide pleasure
and/or be of help to another. One is of duty and the other of the heart.
The goal in
any relationship is to make it more meaningful,
make it more deeply loving. If one seeks for love, one looks to another
for fulfilment. If one seeks for meaning, one seeks to fulfil others, because
he will then see meaning beyond himself, and even
in his trials and sufferings.
If you're seeking
to be a fulfilment to another, seeking for meaning in the potential relationship
and they "won't let you into their world", you know for sure that their
world is not for you.
Many men seek for and have women
that have an attitude of trying to 'keep right' with them, rather than
loving them from the heart. This is hardly a relationship!
Seek a person
with an attitude like God, where you don't have to work at gaining and
keeping his favor, because you already have it! If you don't feel excited
and intense about the relationship; excited about having fun together,
then why are you in it?
at love in the relationship, but at having fun together. Love is a result
of interaction that builds each other, that makes each other a better person.
That's what builds meaningful love. That's how the
highest form of love develops.
We are most
loyal to those we have fun with. The same applies to God. You can't have
fun if you believe that you are in sin, believing that God is disapproving
of you, especially since this makes you a child
of the devil; you will then be -Hebrews
10:27. This attitude will devour
you. You've been made righteous by faith (Romans
5:1), faith in Jesus Christ alone; that is, you believe that He is
in you. That's all. The rest will come in time
as you continue believing this. Believing leads one to do things and to
often makes one judge himself imperfect, stopping one from the need to
be loved because one knows he/she is a sinner and deserving of punishment
instead of blessings. So one hides his heart from others and becomes a
phony like the Pharisees.
One then feels unworthy of anyone's love, even God's.
of each, a oneness is created. Become married to Christ by accepting Him
(believing) that He is with you, in you, a part of you -Romans
10:9,10. And He does accept you.-...continues
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