M a t i n g--C o n s i d e r a t i o n s ,  P a g e  1
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New creation: Think about your potential partner. Will he or she make you feel wanted and is concerned about the new creation that you are becoming together or, are they more interested in you fitting in with him or her? The adapting part comes from the one willing to be this way (Colossians 3:1-19 and Ephesians 5:22,24) and hopefully that's the both of you -Ephesians 5:21.
    Love is letting go of some things for the sake of the relationship. Such as, the exciting dating life. Is the other willing to give up what's needed to produce this new creation? Do you both realize that sex is only a part of a fulfilling relationship? Or does one or both of you feel that sex is still the 'summa cum laude' of a relationship?
    Many are just plain unappreciative and express unthankfulness to you or/and to God, being downright selfish. They are 'heavy' and burdened, lacking the lightness of joy
  • Intelligence: Seek for a person with a mind as intelligent and understanding of the ways of God as you may be -Proverbs 1:15-22; 21:19; Titus 2:2-8; 1Peter 3:1-7. Seek for one with a deep heart, one who feels good things deeply. Ask yourself if you both believe that you can be happy together. What good is a relationship if two don't sincerely agree on specific living ways? -Amos 3:3. It's then a breeding ground for conflict.  
  • Can your viewpoints combine? The combined judgements of male and female are important to a happy family. 

    Avoids: Avoid the potential partner who wants to run their life as they only see fit. Find a partner who is concerned about your spiritual well being as well as his/her own. 
        Never 'pick' on your mate. In some relationships, verbal murder reigns. Criticism kills

    A man loves a dog because it's the only thing around the house that doesn't find fault with him! 

    Guys: Avoid 'picky' girls who often make you think there is something wrong with what you may be doing, when it is only personal expression on insignificant things of little or no consequence -Proverbs 17:15
        Be wary of others whose esteem is low. Therein emotional suicide reigns. Some girls like to play. Be wary of those who play with your emotions, turning you off and then on. If they turn you off, be off and don't come back! Don't get involved unless you can have fun with her -Ecclesiastes 9:9.
        Avoid a potential partner who may like you one day and can't stand you another. Observe if she normally exists in an accept or resist phase. A woman's esteem is determined by what else? her feelings! A man who breeds good feelings in his woman is in for a treat. 
        Women like men's voices. Does your voice guys, speak sincerity from your heart? 
        Think carefully about diehard feminists

    It is the height of idiocy and inflexibility to stalk someone who's turned you off and wants rid of you. One such as this is so down on their self and unbelieving of any ability to adapt to someone else. 
        Another consideration is to ask yourself if you feel trapped around the person: Does he/she expand your horizons and 'free your soul', or constrict you emotionally? 

    Outlooks: What does he or she think of others? Does he/she engage in character assassinations? Look for a mate who possesses a balanced approach to living and one who sees hope in life. The greater the imbalance, the greater is the potential for a disastrous relationship. Better to be in a staid relationship and work at spicing it up than to live in an 'exciting' one which is imbalanced. 
        Those who feel that they deserve love will make themselves as lovable as they possibly can. We must make ourselves as lovable as we can think off. Use your imagination. Ask questions of yourself as to what would cause the other to respond positively towards you. A woman should take pains to be sweet, kind, affectionate and responsive. A man should work at being loving and showing care and consideration. Many women think that's it's a man's responsibility to love them as they are. Wrong baby! 
        Also, A guy who sees sex as the highest criterion is blind, blind, blind! 
        We all need to be loved. It is cruelty to withhold and/or reject love. Jesus had a need to be loved -John 21:16,17. A meaningful relationship is one that confers meaning and value on the sexual. One either values a sexual relationship because another's uniqueness is precious, or one values a relationship for selfish reasons. The value another places upon us plays a large part in keeping a relationship together. A relationship becomes stronger, the more value each is to the other. 
        Goeth: "A heart that loves one person can hurt no one." Look for a person whose heart is eager to discover the design for goodness in others.-...continues


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