about your potential partner. Will he or she make you feel wanted and is
concerned about the new creation that you are becoming together or, are
they more interested in you fitting in with him or her? The adapting part
comes from the one willing to be this way (Colossians
3:1-19 and Ephesians 5:22,24)
and hopefully that's the both of you -Ephesians
Love is letting
go of some things for the sake of the relationship. Such as, the exciting
dating life. Is the other willing to give up what's needed to produce this
new creation? Do you both realize that sex is only a part of a fulfilling
relationship? Or does one or both of you feel that sex is still the 'summa
cum laude' of a relationship?
Many are just
plain unappreciative and express unthankfulness to you or/and to God, being
downright selfish. They are 'heavy' and burdened, lacking the lightness
Intelligence: Seek for a person with
a mind as intelligent and understanding of the ways of God as you may be
-Proverbs 1:15-22; 21:19;
2:2-8; 1Peter 3:1-7. Seek for one
with a deep heart, one who feels good things deeply. Ask yourself if you
both believe that you can be happy together. What good is a relationship
if two don't sincerely agree on specific living ways? -Amos
3:3. It's then a breeding ground for conflict.
Can your viewpoints combine? The combined
judgements of male and female are important to a happy family.
Avoids: Avoid the potential partner
who wants to run their life as they only see fit. Find a partner who is
concerned about your spiritual well being as well as his/her own.
on your mate. In some relationships, verbal murder reigns. Criticism
A man loves a dog because it's the
only thing around the house that doesn't find fault with him!
Guys: Avoid 'picky' girls
who often make you think there is something wrong with what you may be
doing, when it is only personal expression on insignificant things of little
or no consequence -Proverbs 17:15.
Be wary of others
whose esteem is low. Therein emotional suicide reigns. Some girls like
to play. Be wary of those who play with your emotions, turning you off
and then on. If they turn you off, be off –
and don't come back! Don't get involved unless you can have fun with her
Avoid a potential
partner who may like you one day and can't stand you another. Observe if
she normally exists in an accept or resist phase. A woman's esteem is determined
by – what else? –
her feelings! A man who breeds good feelings in his woman is in for a treat.
Women like men's
voices. Does your voice guys, speak sincerity from your heart?
about diehard feminists.
It is the
height of idiocy and inflexibility to stalk someone who's turned you off
and wants rid of you. One such as this is so down on their self and unbelieving
of any ability to adapt to someone else.
is to ask yourself if you feel trapped around the person: Does he/she expand
your horizons and 'free your soul', or constrict you emotionally?
Outlooks: What does he or she think
of others? Does he/she engage in character assassinations? Look for a mate
who possesses a balanced approach to living and one who sees hope in life.
The greater the imbalance, the greater is the potential for a disastrous
relationship. Better to be in a staid relationship and work at spicing
it up than to live in an 'exciting' one which is imbalanced.
Those who feel
that they deserve love will make themselves as lovable as they possibly
can. We must make ourselves as lovable as we can think off. Use your imagination.
Ask questions of yourself as to what would cause the other to respond positively
towards you. A woman should take pains to be sweet, kind, affectionate
and responsive. A man should work at being loving and showing care and
consideration. Many women think that's it's a man's responsibility to love
them as they are. Wrong baby!
Also, A guy
who sees sex as the highest criterion is blind, blind, blind!
We all need
to be loved. It is cruelty to withhold and/or reject love. Jesus had a
need to be loved -John 21:16,17.
A meaningful relationship is one that confers meaning and value on the
sexual. One either values a sexual relationship because another's uniqueness
is precious, or one values a relationship for selfish reasons. The value
another places upon us plays a large part in keeping a relationship together.
A relationship becomes stronger, the more value each is to the other.
Goeth: "A heart
that loves one person can hurt no one." Look for a person whose heart is
eager to discover the design for goodness in others.-...continues