macho hustler guys can often have a hard time handling the stresses and
responsibilities of daily living. Ultra meekness in someone is better but
can cloak anger. Moses was
like this -Numbers 12:3. Look
for a man who is tolerant and won't become nit picking and bitter towards
you -Colossians 3:19. Many persons
have not been taught
to relate to others in a loving manner. Look for a man who doesn't have
all his vision wrapped up in the relationship. Otherwise he'll drive you
nuts trying to get every detail in the relationship perfect and may lack
the forgiveness needed to make the relationship smoothly work.
Many women pass
over (because they want the macho
'exciting' guy) the fellow who is a volunteer to the handicapped, the guy
who has developed love for things other than himself (albeit, in some cases,
only for his computer so far eh! – ha!), the guy with a good upbringing
(the most important consideration regarding another) who may not
necessarily want to be in the main stream of the dating scene.
Even to meet
these guys is difficult (and they are by far the majority) as they are
seldom in a bar, preferring instead to improve themselves and enjoy life
in a more peaceful, patient and meaningful way. They may or may not go
to church. They will possess a good sense of humor, be lovers of good things
(Titus 1:8) and look at life from a
positive point of view -Philippians
see them as they shop for groceries and clothing, perhaps in church, maybe
at work. Ask God to guide you to him and look for unselfishness in him
when you meet him. Look at the actions and notice what
results another produces in you. Selfishness
is deadly to a relationship. See the 'rate-a-mate'.
is something to watch for -Jeremiah
'treacherously' here, can also be translated 'deceitfully').
We can love anyone we decide to. Decision is the key! But seek a man who
makes you feel good about yourself; sexy and confident. If he can't make
you feel like this, why are you with him?
Hey guys! Why let a woman choose
you? You should probably move on from a lot of those kind. Know what you
want (talk to older people who've been through it) and do the choosing
yourself. Be bold enough to introduce yourself to a girl you are attracted
to. Know what you want in the way of character in her. Concepts of conversation.
If a woman is
for God, she'll be sexy and if inclined toward you (see 'commitment',
below a bit), hot for you if you are too (Proverbs
31:10-31 -verse 30 here about a woman who 'fears the Lord' means a
woman with whom a relationship with God is number 1 in her life);
3:3) hot for God.
If you take
attention, concern, patience, kindness, gentleness and understanding into
the relationship, most women will respond with passion,
if she has sufficiently overcome the hurts of her past.
all negatives by knowing they have the righteousness
of Jesus Christ. Example.
If you treat
her special, she'll stay with you.
Some of the
best advice I ever heard to maintain a great relationship was to decide
to spoil each other. That comes from Jim
Richards of Impact Ministries. It's worked for him and his beautiful
lady that's spoiled him for over twenty years. Jim needs spoiling and hey
– don't we all? The way a woman likes to be treated is often!
on a journey through life; you might as well enjoy it as best you can!
the guy who is violent and may not be gentle with you (Malachi
2:14-16) or children. Some men,
and much more so than women, have a 'vandalism syndrome'; that is, once
a relationship is good, they find some reason, or excuse, to wreck it!
Truly, the demons do have an 'in line'
to many. Watch for early frustrations in men, and consider that these frustrations
some day may be directed towards you, and/or the relationships, and/or,
anything that seems permanently clean, good, wholesome, constructive.
Many women have
been abused by their male partners. Some
are so downhearted and confused they interpret a clinched fist as an
expression of love or exercise and hang in there for more – "I don't need
to go out and exercise. I can stay home and get it from fist dodging."
Many guys are
to anger and fits of rage -(Psalms
15:18 "A wrathful man stirreth up strife; but he that is slow to anger
It takes time
and circumstances to find this out. Why respond to a man who treats you
without gentleness and dignity? Where do you think you'll ever go in life
with this kind of person? Perhaps to the grave.
For men in the
Calgary area who want help to overcome a tendency to be abusive, contact
Men's Domestic Conflict Help Line at 266-4357. For women contact the Calgary
Women's Emergency Shelter at 232-8717.
RCMP (Royal Canadian Mounted Police) video entitled Violence Against
Women; call 1-800-445-5144.
have taught women to 'submit'. In Ephesians
tells us to be submitting (original is 'aligning with') to each other.
And why? If you are both seeking to grow spiritually, you naturally would
see which of you at any time would be ahead in this area.-...continues